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I've never been a huge fan of chocolate or my mobile phone. But I do use my phone as my mp3 player, so it'd be easier to get rid of chocolate. I suppose I'd only really miss chocolate this time of year. I <3 me some chocolate covered cherries.

It's time for Carol and Greg's annual holiday message. This year we posted it as a photo album on Facebook, but you don't have to be a member to view it. Just click the link below and then click on the first "Holiday Message" image of the photo album.

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=1344&id=100000543162950&l=38840e2996

My husband already knows my answer to this question, and he's never been too happy about it.

No, I've never thought that honest is always the best policy. In my opinion, there are some things that just cause unnecessary strife and drama that are best left dissembled. I'm talking about little things, stuff that don't really matter in the long run, but that can--in the here and now--cause hurt feelings or undue conflict.

I also think that it's a bit of a privacy issue. Both partners have a right to close off small parts of their lives to the other--just to maintain a sense of self. If that means bending the truth a bit to keep that private realm private, why not?

Greg and I haven't even been married a year yet, so it's possible all of this will change over time. Maybe these boundaries that I'm absolutely positive right now are desirable will become nothing but a hinderance in the future. I'm willing to reexamine the issue in the future for the sake of a good marriage. But for right now, I do think that this occassional fudging of honesty is good for the marriage.

Greg's never been entirely persuaded. Although, he once told me that he didn't mind spending time with my family. There's no way he was being truthful about that. So I'm pretty sure he agrees with my position; he just doesn't like admitting it. :)